I just got a NILMDTS, Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, call this evening. Those calls always make my heart sink. This evening I have a struggling Mommy and her family in my prayers. It’s moments like these that really make you think about what is important in this life. There are so many challenges and trials that batter us about. It seems cruel that losing a child is one of them.
If you know a mother who is going through the grief and pain of such a loss, reach out. Don’t stay silent!
I remember being newly married and a friend of mine losing a baby. She has Lupus and she lost several babies before she carried one to term. I am ashamed that I was silent. It was awkward. There is always the question of what to say. I didn’t want to add to the grief. But instead, by standing aside, I let her suffer alone. I hope others were not so intimidated and afraid. I wish I could go back. With maturity and motherhood in my belt I would be a better friend.
If you don’t know what to say give a hug, send flowers, write a letter….SERVE.
It is always hard when I step into those hospital rooms and feel the weight of the moment. I feel like a 19 year old all over again. I don’t know what to say. And then I pray for the strength to do my job, to be strong and compassionate and to say what that Mother needs to hear. And I fell better knowing that maybe I gave her a moment of peace, that my shoulder to cry on lifted her burdens and that Heavenly Father will surely look after her and comfort and heal.
NILMDTS is a wonderful non-profit organization that sole purpose is to help families heal. I am proud to be one of their volunteers. If you are looking for a charity that really makes a difference this year to contribute to please consider them. You can learn more at their website :